READ THE PARTS IN “*******” TO SAVE TIME IF YOU WANT…
I’m Also Going To Type Terribly To Save Room
2-3 yrs ago I met a guy through a “friend.” (She & I both know that we’re only “friends” when we want to party.) He, of course, was a party animal. J. (we’ll call him that) has a BAD rep. with the girls. He’s known to be a manipulative horndog. He wants to get wasted, smoke cigarettes, maybe a little pot, X too I think, then screw whatever girl he can find. We talked like any other 2 people would, nothin between us. 4 these few years, I’ve known he was attracted to me & he picked up that I was to him too. (I liked “bad boys” & trouble makers..I LIKED the ones that won’t get emotionally close to you.) We never acknowledged it though, cause we knew it wasn’t a good idea. We didn’t call, text, anything in between parties; we only spoke when we ran into each other in person….He realized he wanted to get into the military & stopped the drugs. He continued his drinking parties, smoking & womanizing though.
About a month ago we were both at A’s bday party. He talked to me some & we hung out a little. He lit up a cigarette while he was talking to me & I politely found a nice way to stop the conversation & walked away. A bit later we were sitting side by side around the bond fire & everyone was joking together. He lit another one & I made my way to the ice chest, then sat a few seats down from him. Later he asked me if he’d offended me. I said “No, why would you think that?” & he told me that the first time I walked away from him he didn’t think anything of it but when I did it a second time, he thought he did something wrong. I told him “Cigarette smoke makes me nauseous but it’s an open, public place so I won’t ask anyone to put theirs out.” H. (another friend & smoker) went “That’s why you always randomly leave!” & M. went “Yeah, I caught that!” (Duh guys, glad you’re all so observant) The rest of the night, he left the yard completely to smoke. During one of our conversations he offered me a drink & I said “No thanks.” He said “Did you quit drinking?” & I told him “No, I quit getting wasted though. & I all ready had one tonight, I don’t want to take any chances. I have kids to look after.” (I raise my siblings) When we got home that night, I noticed that he’d added me on FB & sent me a message with his phone number in it. We started texting & talking.
*******He asked me if I wanted to hang out one night later in the week after he got off work & I declined. The next day I got invited to a small party for the same day & I accepted. He heard that I would be there & asked why I turned him down but accepted the party invite when I don’t drink much anymore. I explained “I’m sure you know you have a bad rep. with the girls..?” & he said “Oh, yeah, I do. Look, I like sex, but It’s getting old, I want someone who can make me smile & actually likes me.” Then he had to go. Later that week at the party we hung out a lot & he didn’t have any cigarettes; he only had one can of beer. I figured this was his “I’ll show her my good side all night, then she’ll trust me & I can get her in bed.” However, there were only a few of us left late that night & I we were helping clean. I went in to do dishes & realized the kitchen window was cracked (not the glass); from the outside, you can’t tell it’s open. One of his one night stands walked up to him while he was picking the yard up & offered him a beer, a cigarette & said “Why don’t I follow you home tonight.” He said “No, no thanks & no thank you.” She was alarmed & asked “WHY!? To all of it..I know you still drink & smoke..& you know you can have your way with me, no cuddling after or ‘call me’ bull **** in the morning.” He told her “I all ready had a beer, I don’t want anymore. I don’t want to smell like cigarette smoke tonight, and I’m not looking for an easy bang, no offense.” She asked “Since when?” & he said “Since a few weeks ago.” (When we started talking again.) That night was a long one & we ended up all staying at A’s house. He came into the room A & I were in & crawled in the bed with me, I said “Get out.” & he said…
He said “Just trust me. I know you’re an insomniac & I rarely sleep so we can just talk until you get sick of me.” We talked almost all night & we’ve had some other great convos since then..During one he made a sexual comment & before I could reply he said “Sorry, that was out of line. Honestly, you’re hot, beautiful, everything but given the chance I wouldn’t sleep with you.” He gave a few good reasons that I agreed with & he ended it with “& I know you don’t trust easy; I want you to trust me, even if it’s just as friends.”******
the past couple of days he’s suggested we “take it to the next level” but not to a relationship yet..
Is he really putting THAT much time into his usual games to bag me? Or should I give him the time of day?
I kinda thought the same..but I am VERY hesitant to give ANY trust in anything.. And someone who’s known him a bit longer than I have & is closer to him said “He’s J, he won’t change. He’ll go to great lengths & I promise he didn’t start caring in a few weeks. It’d take him years to get that far.”
Chosen Answer:
I don’t think he would, i know i definitely wouldn’t put that much effort into something i didn’t care about.
